The word spirituality covers very different meanings depending on the person.
For some people, spirituality refers to a system of religious beliefs and rituals. The spirituality of a Christian means respecting the dogmas and rituals of the Christian church.
Others see spirituality as a set of social customs that people have developed to find the strength to overcome the trials of life and reassure themselves. It gives meaning to their existence and offers outlets for their fear of natural powers and their fear of death. It would be an artificial and childish culture that every civilization has invented.
It is also sometimes said of someone that he is spiritual, which means that he has wit, that he amuses us.
None of these aspects will be developed here. My goal is not to carry out a general, linguistic, ethnological or sociological inquiry to be stored in the corner of the brain or on a shelf. It is to bring existing knowledge that allows us to flourish fully. In this article, spirituality is considered as another dimension of ourselves, a natural function such as eating, drinking or thinking, which we have to discover and develop, as we can build our intellect or our memory. Spirituality is a way of awakening and growth, a way of exploring our deeper and higher dimensions.
We are living in an age when humanity is evolving spiritually dramatically as we move toward the realization of its essence and purpose. It is therefore urgent that this knowledge is made available to all. This is the role that could logically be expected from public, media or religious education, but it is in vain. Fortunately, there are many books and schools of wisdom that deal with this issue, to which we can drink. Here is an introductory overview.
Relax the grip of personality
If there is a real self in us, why is it not naturally apparent and manifest? Why is not our spiritual dimension set up right away? Why do we need an effort to discover it? Because it is at this price that it can develop and gain strength, like a muscle that is trained by physical exercise and extends by confronting an antagonistic force, a resistance.
In reality, our Essence was present at our birth. But later she was covered by the personality that we built ourselves during our life. Nature is the resistance that opposes the muscle of the mind. It consists of our behaviors, habits, customs, culture, lifestyle, ideal rules of “good” behavior, etc. We developed it gradually, unconsciously, in response to the more or less painful situations and events we experienced and to the various influences we received. It is a garment that we have woven, which was necessary for us to be accepted and loved in this world. This is the character we adopted to look like what was expected of us. It’s a disguise, a mask (the word personality comes from Persona, an Etruscan word meaning theater mask). Unfortunately, most of the time, our character ignores, abandons or rejects our Essence.
We are so used to ignoring our Essence, to act and think according to our personality, that we have forgotten that it is only a momentary disguise, a theater accessory, a social garment, and we have the impression that she is ourselves. We are very attached to our personality because we think that it is thanks to it that we can be accepted and recognized. We are afraid of being rejected if we abandon it and we put a lot of effort into complying with it and feeling worthy of being loved. When we do not receive the rewards of our effort, we feel disrespected, hurt. These adverse emotional reactions are a sign of our attachment to the personality. (This theme is discussed in detail in the article The Inner Child and the Language of Emotions )
To allow our Essence to regain its place and unfold, it is necessary to loosen the grip of our personality that drives us to control our emotions and behaviors and to block our spontaneity. Relaxing the character is allowing us to be more spontaneous in our practice, in the manner of the child. The little child lives his impulses in the energy of the moment and confidence – at least as long as one does not forge a personality by repressing these tendencies.
When you react like children, as your inner being wanted, your conscience tells you: ” No, you must not, I am a great teacher, I have no right to let myself go.” Please, disorganize this extreme behavior. When you do not work at the level of your mind, you are closer to your heart. You dance. You are in jest. Drop your personality! When you are in-joke and joy, you take all things with ease as do children …Spirituality is not to call oneself a disciple of such a great master. It’s relaxing. It is honest with oneself, very clear, unambiguous, without hypocrisy.